How You Can Help
“In our love for others we often unintentionally provide a safety net that prevents the addict from facing the full consequences of their addiction.”
Seek professional assistance
You have likely tried to do this alone long enough. In most cases, an outside perspective is necessary to create change and shift the family dynamics. Have a professionally certified interventionist navigate you and your family through this difficult time.
Stop enabling and keeping secrets
Addiction thrives in secrecy, so don’t be party to this. As uncomfortable as it may be, do not lie or cover up for the addict. Allow them to face the full consequences of their addiction.By enabling the addict you risk keeping them from hitting a bottom that they may need to hit to smash them from their denial. Reduce the shame and the stigma by open, meaningful dialogue about addiction and its impact on you.
Learn to say “No”!
Don’t feel bad about setting boundaries. We have to know where we end and the other person begins. Unhealthy enmeshment causes both parties to become sicker.
Nagging and threats are futile
Say what you mean; mean what you say; don’t say it mean. Threats without consistent, supported follow-through further reinforces the addict’s behavior patterns.
Seek support for yourself
Associate with others who can identify with the territory of dealing with addicted persons. If you isolate and keep secrets, you will be constantly questioning yourself and the logic of your own decisions.
Educate yourself about addiction
Use our Resource material to gain a better understanding of the addiction process and how it impacts the psychological, physical and spiritual aspects of the substance-affected individual.
Learn about the recovery process
Attend some twelve-step support groups such as Alcoholics Anonymous, Al-Anon, Nar-Anon, Narcotics Anonymous, Cocaine Anonymous or Co-Dependents Anonymous
Participate in the recovery process
Learn to detach with love and set appropriate boundaries with the addicted person
Engage in a self-care program
Make sure you have the physical, emotional and spiritual resources to provide suitable help. Take the focus off the addicted person and put it back on yourself. Addiction can become all consuming for the addict and those around them.
Assist others through service work
Co-dependency evolves when dealing with an addicted person. By sharing what you have learned you will be providing a service to others, which will enhance your self-esteem.
Find community resources.
Many resources are available in your community or area for those affected by substance abuse